I found this one via Espresso Shots 10-18-26. The main takeway is quite different from what most people would say about becoming a great conversationalist.
If the original link is no longer available, you can find a copy of it on the WayBack Machine: https://web.archive.org/web/20261018124710/https://bigthinkmedia.substack.com/p/how-to-become-a-great-conversationalist
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